After going through all of these pieces, self love, masculine, feminine, sexuality.. We are left with ourselves.. What do we want to do with ourselves? This isn’t some self-isolating question of removing ourselves from the community and never caring about anyone else again. This is about what do we actually want? Once we get all of the old baggage and media messaging, we are left with whom we actually are at our core. Of course we may still have patterns or habits we’d like to modify, but we are no long purely reacting from places that aren’t even ours in the first place.
The process of growth never stops. Sorry to pop that bubble, but it really doesn’t. Why would it? We continually learn and shift from who we were into who we are becoming, and that becoming is a constant process, we are an element of nature, which is always shifting and changing, which is ok. It can actually be quite beautiful.
So acknowledging that growth is an integral part of discovering what we want beyond the messages we had been fed over the course of our lives. As this also allows us the space to grow into that which we want. Instead of being so frustrated that we’re not there yet, we can see that we are still growing to that place.
As I touched on in the last newsletter, who would you be without others idea of who you should be? What would you want? This isn’t some daydreaming fantasy, this is incorporating your deeper awareness of what you can handle, what drives and motivates you, and how that integrates into your life. One of the best pieces of life planning advise I have ever received was, instead of asking who do you want to be when you grown up.
Ask yourself; What problems do you want to solve?
That really uncovers what you want, and what you’re willing to handle. Want to change the world, alright, go ahead, what problems do you want to solve in the process? This way you connect to what your inner strengths and values are, you can bring in the awareness of what your life experience already is, things you have been inspired to solve in the past.
This line of thinking I find cultivates the deeper sense of our integral inner knowing. Who do you want to be when you grow up, creates a disconnect, it’s a future you, that could be so far away it’s hard to even imagine what that life would be like. The problems you want to solve? Those are alive in us in every moment, of every day. It’s what gets our blood boiling and our minds racing. The adventurous part is balancing the frustration that can sometimes occur when we tune into this space. The awareness that we see a problem and others do not.
The catch here is understanding your growth into the person that can solve those problems. Break those problems down into smaller chunks. Identifying how you can help to address them where you are now, and how that will grow into the future.
This applies to all aspects of life, not just a “career” as it were. What problems do you want to solve in your connection to others? Connection to yourself? Your emotions? Community? Your city? Tuning into this scope of awareness also puts us in the problem solving mindset. It’s amazing what we can accomplish when we’re looking at it though the lens of something to solve instead of fix, or deal with, or avoid. It’s not to say that some of those things may not happen anyways. Our mindset though can make it all the more easier.
With something this deep you may wonder why wait so long to dive into it? Why do all those other steps first? Emotional Resilience. The courage it takes to face our associations that we’ve picked up in our past and heal them and address them, means we can face our deeper inner truths with so much more of ourselves. We can acknowledge the journey that it took to get us where we are today without the resentment and deep charge holding us back from the awareness of what we actually want.
Emotional resilience is not instantly acquired; it is a process, an understanding and an integration of our past selves into our current self. As we develop emotional resilience though things may still impact us and cause us hurt, or feelings, our emotional resilience keeps us on course with where we were headed. The ship can keep sailing on course as it were even if the waters get rough. With the compass of what problems do you want to solve, the course may change and be modified over time, still it lands in a place where your hopes, goals, and talents are of benefit to you.
This combination of emotional resilience and what problems do you want to solve, also incorporates a deep level of self awareness and honesty. To take into account of what you can handle, what you want to face each day and still be motivated to get out of bed is a process that takes courage. I am regularly inspired by my clients at how they dig deep and look into whom they are and shift it into who they want to be. Emotional resilience in this context is who we are in relation to our resources. Do we know our internal resources, our external resources? How do we access them? This helps us to know what we need and how we can fulfill that need in a healthy balanced way.
The question of “what problems do you want to solve” could be painful, we live in a world where there are a lot of options, there are things happening out there that learning, and reading and experiencing them can cause deep sorrows in our heart or our soul. It can cause frustration, at oneself or the world, the injustices, the disregard.. In many ways our world is in deep need right now. It can be painful to look at it, and very often that pain is what many of my clients are trying to avoid. The common messages in the world offer shortcuts that are not solutions, and distractions to avoid what is actually going on.
So yes, there may be pain, but that pain can be tempered into strength when we are aware that we are doing our best, and lending our particular strengths into what problems we want to solve. It’s different to witness the world coming to what’s happening and feeling like there is nothing we can do about it, rather than knowing we are doing our best to address the areas of the world that we can impact and that we have the skills, knowledge, life experience, or natural inclination to address.
How does this relate to hypnotherapy?
The process of getting to the point of being able to face what we want to solve and honestly answer that can take time. As I’ve been outlining in these newsletters, it’s a process, and having someone along the way helping you sort through it, and encouraging you to uncover what is deeper and what is really you both streamlines the process and encourages self trust and safety. If there is anything that I have learned in this world, it’s that the ability to feel safe as we go through our emotions, our hopes, our dreams allows them to actually surface.
This process of building emotional resilience and asking these questions is not easy to accomplish in the rush and tumble of our everyday world. In fact the state of trance, or hypnosis allows the space for our deeper yearnings to surface safely and be guided in the way that you want. My role in this process is to help you to get to the deeper root of what is happening for you, and provide a means for you to change how your mind approaches things in the future.
What problems do you want to solve? What is holding you back? What would you rather was the supporting belief to help you along your way?
My role is to remind your subconscious of what it is you want, and provide the guidance for your process to unfold as you have the courage to face it.
Sound like the adventure you want to go down? I would love to be a part of that process. For a small dose of exploration try the Personal growth package want to go all out? Try the Personal Overhaul Package. Take a look on the “What to expect page” of my website and scroll down to the packages for a further description of what these packages entail.
Thank you for reading and being a part of this journey with me.